Herpes & Rejection?

Most people who hear that someone has Herpes assume that person is promiscuous, or unclean somehow, but as anyone who has the virus knows, this is not true. I myself became infected five years ago by my first (and only) partner, after he claimed he was not infected with any disease. Well, I am older and wiser now, and have not been rejected because of my illness. Just remember that honesty is your best policy. If someone really loves you, they will see you for the whole person that you are, not just the disease. If my partner had just been honest with me, we could have worked together to prevent me from getting sick by using protection. I would have loved him all the more for it, and I would not be sick today.

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Rejection is a normal thing that i realize everyone faces, Not just people with infections. It does make life a little tougher because your not really sure how the other person would react, especially if you tell them after you've had intercourse together.
Anyway it's best to feel out a person's vibe first before you go all noble on them and tell them your condition. Personally, i've come to realize that everyone can't handle an honest person. they would rather have the morning aftershock so they can feel like somebody owes them some type of explanation. But I 've learned over my seven years of experience is that no one really cares about getting a disease until it really happens to them. so yea if a guy is worthy, i would give him respect and tell him that i have herp.

By the way, i caught this pain in the a$# condition when i was 17 by a man who was 27 at the time, and was too coward and inconsiderate to tell me he had it. I am now 24 and i'm not as depressed and suicidal because i know that someone who cares about me has accepted me and my close friend herp! We are also thinking about having a baby so obviously he's not worrying about it that much.

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It is not uncommon to be rejected because of the herpes virus. You need to be prepared for that when you tell a potential partner. However it is not always the case. A lot of the stigma that is associated with the virus stems from ignorance and a lack of education about the virus. If you are telling a potential partner, position it in a positive light and make sure you are armed with as much knowledge about the virus as possible as you are likely to be hit with a number of questions.

People that are happy with themselves and with life are far more attractive than those that are negative or depressed, so let your partner know that the virus is just an inconvenience, not a big burden to your life. Remember it is only a virus, it doesn't define who you are, and contrary to the earlier post, it is not a nasty virus. Yes we have the virus for life, but at the end of the day the emotional symptoms are far worse than the physical symptoms, and the emotional symptoms stem from the stigma that society puts on the virus. So, if you can get on top of the emotional symptoms, everything should be fine. Some of us have little or no outbreaks so it is no big deal from the physical perspective.

by me